Thursday, June 25, 2009

Bad Mommy...

My son is exhausting me. He is in the "why" phase and literally questions EVERYthing I say. But that isn't the primary frustration. Nate is about to turn four years old and he is very, very resistant to potty training. We have tried lots of methods of motivation: charts, treats, stickers, prizes... the list goes on. We have seen minimal progress over time.
I have only tried underwear once or twice because why give myself the extra work of having to clean them out when he clearly has no interest in keeping them clean?He still throws fits when told to go potty on the toilet. He still refuses to even tell me after he's pooped in his diaper or pull-up. He is very intelligent and we have every reason believe that he is fully capable of being potty trained.
I've resorted to (somewhat) desperate measures. When he was little Nate had a reaction to anything red: tomato sauce, strawberries, watermelon, etc. He would get serious diaper rashes. Some were pretty ugly. So we proceeded to avoid giving him anything red to avoid the skin irritations that followed. But no more. I am no longer protecting his behind. He is eating spaghetti sauce, strawberries... all the things that we used to keep from him he is now eating. I am hoping that the bottom discomfort that follows will help motivate him to do his business where it belongs. Wish me luck. Or just pray for me because I'm sick and tired of changing a kid's diaper who knows better but is too lazy to actually do anything about it.

5 comments:

Sniz said...

Actually, that red thing is a good idea, Wani. Good luck and keep me updated. I had a blast last night and am so glad that Justine joined us and got to meet you guys. I'm hopeful she'll come to some church stuff in the future now that she's met you. She told me she had fun and she really liked you guys! Anyway, could you send me the pics you took last night sometime when you get a chance? Thanks!

Anna said...

We had the same problem and when nothing else worked, we bribed him with shiny coins, we counted his poops in the potty (gross, I know, but not to a 4 yr old) and he got that many shiny coins for his piggy bank, then he got to cash it out and buy himself a toy.. also buying him underwear with his favourite things such as spiderman or CARs.. but really, you just need to bite the bullet and put him in the underwear.. extra work for a week or two or three.. but then you can say bye bye to pullups!! Whatever you do, good luck to you! I wish you much patience..

Julie said...

GOOD MOM, you are outsmarting him:)

Sniz said...

Any progress???

Anonymous said...

Have you heard of a book called Potty Training in Less Than A Day? I used it with our last two after a very frustrating experience with the first. It doesn't work in a day but it is a great positive approach that saved my sanity and the boys really liked.