Saturday, May 10, 2008

The Road to Marriage.... tres

I know we didn't do things perfectly. I'd probably change some things if I could. But no relationship is without its flaws. My parents were in shock, not that we could blame them. They hadn't had much time to get to know Isaac. We went from acquaintances to engaged in less than two months. My friends were also in shock... most of them had never even heard about Isaac when they found out we were getting married!
It took alot of people awhile to warm up to Isaac given the surprise he was to so many. But over time everyone came to see all the wonderful things in him that I'd seen all along. Our engagement was a short five months (seemed like forever to Isaac and I). We sought pre-marital counseling, both from a mental health professional and the pastor (and close friend) who would be marrying us. In our relationship we had cut through the surfacey stuff that most people go through in "normal" dating. But the counseling did help us to delve deep and encouraged us to look ahead at what married life together would be like and the challenges that would naturally come along.
Over that autumn we enlisted the help of our families and friends as we planned and put together (mostly DIY) a beautiful wedding and reception. There is so much planning and work that goes into a wedding... and it goes by so fast! It was such a wonderful day, shared with friends and family that we love... but honestly its all such a blur!

*Do not be afraid to do a little DIY when it comes to your own wedding! Check out some of the many books on how to have a beautiful wedding without spending alot of money! There are also alot of great books and articles on courtship and dating out there if you only look. Don't be afraid to find your own balance between the two. It doesn't have to be completely one or the other. And don't let yourself get hung up on stereotypes. Everyone is different and so is every relationship. Your best bet is to let God guide you in all of your relationships. We'd all be better off if we did that!




6 comments:

kilax said...

I think some people just know they click after a shorter amount of time. It doesn't take everyone such a long time to have a mature relationship.

Big Doofus said...

When do you tell everyone about how the wedding reception was so smokin' hot that it literally burned down a church?

Sniz said...

Ha to Big Doofus' comment! This was a great, though-provoking post, Wani. I hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!

Snizzers

Wani said...

Doofus... seriously... does everyone have to know about that? I swear, we'll never be able to reminisce about our wedding without that being brought up! sigh... at least it happened after the wedding instead of before!

~April~ said...

If I recall when Deb was telling me the story of your courtship...I think before I even met you...she said you hid out at their house for a few days before telling your folks! I'm sure you, and they, can laugh about it now, but at the time I bet it was a mix of excitement and concern for their reaction!

~April~ said...

Oh, and I want to hear about the church fire! :)